How to Get Him Back and Keep Him

Lets talk a little bit about egos or more importantly the effect your ego may have on getting him back and keeping him in your relationship. Sometimes when your heart is broken you can miss the obvious, I think it’s obvious to say that it is impossible to rekindle a relationship if you are flipping your ex attitude because your ego is getting in the way. This is a serious no-no but can also be one of the most difficult obstacles to overcome when it comes to getting your ex back.

Herein lies the question. Is the relationship important enough to you that your willing to swallow your pride and do whatever it takes to get him back? This falls under the category of “easier said than done” if the breakup was your fault. It’s not easy to admit your wrong. We all know that, can you admit when your wrong? I personally have a hard time with it but it all boils down to taking responsibility for your actions. Once you’ve seen the error of your way’s then you’ve taken the first step in reviving the relationship. You need to apologize for what you’ve said or done and let the healing begin. You asked how to get him back and keep him, I never said it would be easy!

What if it wasn’t your fault, you ask. It’s natural to feel that your ex should be the one that does the apologizing. If he’s not willing to “man-up” to his what he did then your faced with an important question. Are you willing to let his ego stand in the way of the relationship. Sometimes it’s quicker for you to take the first step by forgiving him. It’s a shot to your ego but sometimes we have to do things we don’t like to keep the fire burning. If you can plant the seed of forgiveness in his mind then it will make it much easier for him to apologize to you.

I think it’s important to mention physical and mental abuse here. If you were a victim then you need to avoid this person at all costs. Go to therapy, stay with a friend, do whatever you have to do to make this person leave your mind and never let him back in your life again. Do not try and get him back and definitely don’t try and keep him! No one should be treated this way and with plenty of fish in the sea you don’t have to settle…

If your the abusive one then please seek help, there is something wrong with you if you feel you have to use violence to settle an argument. There are plenty of support groups that can help you with your problem.

How to Get Him Back and Keep Him, brought to you by Karen Winters.

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